In the article "Friends, Good Friends and Such Friends", the writer - Judith Viorst - analyzes and classifies the types of friends. She divides the types of friends into 8 categories and illustrates what kind of intimacy and cases is experienced in each friendship. I chose this topic, because recently, I have been thinking about the value of friends in a person's life and how we should place them according to content of our relationship. I thought this article could be of use to make up my mind about the place and value of the friendships in my life. Due to the fact that a person spends most of his/her time with friends in a civilized society, we should save some time to think about this important concept. I read the article with a great attention, and tried to find out whether the writer is right at her point or not. It is understood that the writer had a thorough thinking process to enlighten the readers sufficiently. Although I agree with the writer on some points, there are a few parts in the article which I believe to be unnecesary and wrong. There are 3 divisions in the article which I think that should be reconsidered.
Firstly, the writer puts the friendships into 8 groups and explains them elaborately, but I see that there is not a distinct difference between these categories. It all seems to be alike. When I read the article I felt that Judith Viorst did so to prolong her writing and make the readers think there is an important topic discussed in the article. However, that is not the case. This situation causes readers to be perplexed about friendships rather than providing a clear perspective about them. The writer should have classified the topic into 3 groups as " Best Friends, Friends and Acquaintances" and explain what goes on each of them instead of unnecessarily confusing us.
Secondly, the writer talks about, mainly, women friendships. She indicates that she would not even tell anything about men's position in friendships if one of her friends did not force her to do so. Judith Viorst briefly mentions the men's role in friendships and gives an example, and that is all! I think that is a wrong point of view, because in the contemporary life, there is no segregation between the sexes and the situation applies to the friendships, either. The writer should have included the men in her article in each category. She should not have regarded men and women as different in terms of friendship, because for the last 20 years, men has started to take his place as women's social friends. They, men and women, can talk about private matters, make suggestions related to other relationships and even gossip.
My last criticism on the article is about the way the writer organizes and develops her article. She mostly focuses on under which circumstances and where we meet a friend and why we end these friendships. However, this is a totally different point of view compared to my perception of a friend. I believe that where and how you meet a person is the least important factor in a friendship. What matters is what goes on after we meet, how we behave, how often we see each other and share our life experiences. For example, one can meet a person on the bus and build up a healthy relationship if the basic requirements of a friendship is achieved. These requirements are: respecting, helping each other and keeping in touch.
To sum up, I congratulate the writer on developing such a well - thought and elaborate work. It may help us think about our friendships in a proper way. However, I found some parts flawed and misleading about the friends.
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